Protection Collar

This subject arose in another group I'm in and I thought it might be a good idea to offer it for comments here.

Personally, I think its a good idea for any single female sub (or ANY newbie) to have a protector of record. Preferably one who is well known in their area. It tells people that they aren't alone or without friends and there will be someone to answer to if anyone mistreats them. Unfortunately, calling the police is the last option for us and the bad guys know that. Our lifestyle is no different than any other. There are good and bad people everywhere. In my view we have a higher percentage of bad ones than most other lifestyles. I think the best idea is to have a couple serve as the protector and the worst idea is to have a single dominant.

Having a couple indicates that they are serving only as protectors, not owners, and the likelihood of them trying to take you over as their sub is remote. Anytime you tell people your protector is a single Dom there will always be a question in their minds about the real relationship. The history is that single dominants invariably require you to physically wear "their" collar of protection. But that indicates to other people an ownership and 8 times out of 10 the protecting Dom will intend to make that a reality. Always beware of those single Doms who "offer" to serve as your protector. The fact is, many dominants use the protection collar as a scam to seduce submissives. The next step in that seduction is training. Usually they will begin referring to the collar as a "training" collar at that point. Also, if you use a single dominant and wear their collar, that will tend to deter other dominants you might like to check out from inquiring or approaching you. Using a single dominant is not a good idea and very few single submissives would be effective as a protector. I have seen that work, but in those cases the submissive was a well known male. Twice I remember it worked well with female subs who were very well known and respected within their own community.

Lass and I have served as protectors for many newcomers in our area. We are so well known that it solves all the problems for them. However, we learned the hard way that the protectors should always investigate those they offer protection to. We had a couple of them turn out to be real problems. One caused us to be subpoenaed to their divorce trial and placed us in the position of contempt of court for refusing to name lifestyle members in court. But, we told the judge we would not "out" anyone in our lifestyle and he could just lock us up. Thankfully, he didn't because he said it wasn't pertinent to his decision and the outcome of the trial, but he could have and that was a hell of a position for us to be placed in. We should have checked the person out more thoroughly.

The manner in which the submissive deals with this depends upon their lifestyle environment. If they spend a lot of time in public settings like going to clubs or parties it might be helpful to have an actual collar around their neck. People will always ask, so you would have plenty of opportunity to let everyone know what it was for and that you were under so and so's "protection." The reality is that if you tell one person, the information will beat you to the other end of the room. If you're only on-line an actual collar would not be necessary. Just the name of your protector will suffice.

I have always advocated that single females should have a protector, even non-professional Dommes. That may seem chauvinistic, but reality is reality.

DRAGON