Legends of Dominance - 25

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This article is titled
Legends of Dominance  - 25
by Mistress Michelle Peters et al.
and posted with permission
(All information herein is provided by author)

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Mistress Jacqueline

"WHIPS & KISSES"
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Mistress Diamond from Passion Magazine talking. One rainy afternoon, about four years ago, I received an anonymous call from a very raspy voiced gentleman, who just said, "Turn on channel 2," and then hung up. I turned on the television, and there sat. a very exquisite young and beautiful lady dressed all in leather. At her feet (collared, masked and leashed) sat one of her "slaves". I couldn't believe my eyes. It was the middle of the afternoon and a very well known talk show (Phil Donahue). I couldn't pull my eyes or ears away from it, I was just awestruck!

She talked about the "power exchange" (which is also the name of one of her very successful publications). I thought she was terrific! I was very im-pressed with her ability to "stand strong" as the audience was not a benevolent one. She stayed calm as they threw all sorts of negative comments and insults at her (and her slave).

She had a purpose, a mission so by Mistress Jacqueline, people in Phil's audience took the time to read her hook after they chastised her in such a manner. I'm sure quite a lot of them would change their opinions. It was her book that gave me the courage to go out and find our beautiful "scene". Without seeing her and reading her book, I probably would never have come " out of the closet".

"WHIPS & KISSES" gave me the ambition and drive to go out and search. I thought -"if she can do it - so can I".

Thanks to Mistress Jacqueline's story, I did not encounter all the trials and tribulations that she so unfortunately came across in the early stages of involvement with the S&M community.

I have seen her on a variety of talk shows since then, as well as a variety of her video productions. She continues to do a wonderful job of educating, explaining, and promoting our lifestyle. Her publications are excellent and exceptional forums for all scene people - to share and express ourselves in a positive light. I have not as of yet had the pleasure of meeting Mistress Jacqueline in person, but I did speak to her briefly on the phone. It was an honor and pleasure talking to her. She is not a "high on her dominant horse" Mistress (as many successful ones are). She's a very soft spoken, sensual, down to earth person. My deepest heartfelt thanks and appreciation goes out to her (and my anonymous caller) for taking the time to write, her book and share her life with all of us. "WHIPS & KISSES" is available in most bookstores and also directly from Mistress Jacqueline.

Inquiries may be directed to
Mistress Jacqueline

:7095 Hollywood Blvd. - Ste.#350

Hollywood, CA 90028
(310) 281-9963

Compiled by Mistress Michelle and slave english

Mistress Jacqueline

Making the Mistress/slave Match
From Power X-Change Magazine , No. 2
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You've made the decision. You've got the urge. Your obsession can no longer be cured with a few strokes of your palm. Staying in denial no longer works. It's time to experience your S/M fantasy first hand. You go to the bookstore and leaf through the contact magazines. You have decided to spend your hard earned cash on a professional Dominatrix. By now you know that professional Doms do exist. Like prostitutes, Dominatrixes will sell their time to you. However, unlike the proverbial lady of the night, a good professional Dominatrix is one who is well skilled in the art of bondage, discipline, crossdressing, humiliation, and fetish behavior. She will take the time to get inside your head and bring out your secret sexual desires. Though she will not engage in sexual intercourse with you, she will provide an experience that will bring to life your hidden masturbatory fantasies. Ultimately, she will make you feel understood in a world that is still prurient when it comes to sexual behaviors out of the norm.

Ideally, you will leave your session feeling satisfied and relieved. You'll know you aren't so strange after all. Hopefully, you will be able to convey your fantasy to your existing or potential partner, just like losing your virginity, you now are experienced and can teach the one you have sex with your likes and dislikes.

So, off to the adult store you go. Your best bet is to head to the fetish section. There you will find various S/M magazine titles. Choose those that specialize in contacts. Several magazines are devoted to just that. Buy more than one. It is best to write to a Dom that advertises in more than one place. That assures that she takes her career seriously and probably has been around for awhile. Choosing the Dominatrix that is right for you is as important a decision as selecting a physician or psychotherapist. A Dominatrix works with your body as well as your psyche.Just like you wouldn't entrust yourself to a charlatan when it comes to your health, surely you should not entrust your sexual fantasy with just anyone. You take a risk when you go see a pro. Not only must you feel confident that she knows how to handle equipment correctly but she also must have the intelligence to handle your fantasy in a way that is positive for you. Ultimately, she can make or break your self esteem. After all, you will be disclosing a secret part of yourself to a virtual stranger. Please proceed with caution.

Narrowing Down Your Decision Ask yourself these questions. Do you want to serve this Dominatrix on an on going basis? Do you wish to establish a more intimate relationship with her? Or do you prefer this to be a casual one time only encounter?

If you prefer the former than the latter, then obviously geographical desirability is most important. If you prefer to explore your sexuality in an environment that is far away from the city you reside in, then make sure the city you choose is one you travel to frequently.

Two of my best slaves live over 2,000 miles from me. Though they look forward to traveling to Los Angeles more than once a year in order to serve me, both of these submissives experience a great deal of pain and frustration over the distance they have from me. They did not anticipate the strong feelings they would have for me when they contacted me originally. Both slaves have family and business tie which prevents relocation.

In retrospect, these submissive men may have been happier had they concentrated their search in their own metropolitan area. They love the scene and want to be under constant supervision. That is something that is difficult to achieve in a long distance relationship.

Most Doms will advertise with a picture. Therefore you get to see her a little bit.

Beware of those who don't advertise with a photo. They have something to hide. Looks are important. Though inner beauty and skill are factors to be considered, I would be lying if I told you ignore your dream Doms exterior. S/M session are sensual, erotic encounters. You've got to be turned on or the scene won't work. If your fantasy lady has a specific look, make sure the Dominant you select fits the bill. for example, if you must be dominated by someone tall and thin, you will be unhappy with someone who is short and zaftig.

If you know you're a breast man, make sure the lady has a big or shapely set of knockers. If you're a butt man, she should of course have shapely globes. My colleagues may think I'm encouraging superficial behavior, but I am a firm believer that when you are paying for a service you should get everything you want, or at least as close as possible. It is within your right to ask if the photo in the ad is current and is in fact the lady you are speaking to.

Making Contact
  • If the ad you are responding to has both an address and phone number, I suggest you write first. A well thought-out typewritten letter on good stationery will be given preference to a scrawled note or last minute phone call.
  • Your letter should be brief and to the point. First, give a bit of background information about yourself. Give her your name, occupation, age, marital status, and a contact address and phone number. Write a paragraph about why you are seeking her services at this time and what aspects of the scene you are interested in.
  • Do not waste her time by writing in detail your entire masturbatory fantasies. Explicit, self-serving letters are generally the first ones that get tossed. If applicable, you should also write a bit about your past experiences in the scene and give the names of other Mistresses you have seen.
  • Last but not least, give her a contact address or phone number so she can get in touch with you. The phone number you give, is one where she can reach either you or a machine. Do not expect to get a call back on a beeper. Beepers are annoying and rude.
Setting Up the Session


  • You have every right to speak to a Mistress before you actually see her for a session. The way you are treated on the phone, is a good indication of how you will be treated in her dungeon. If she is rude, discourteous, or rushed, you may want to call someone else.
  • Though your fantasy picture of a Dominatrix may involve some form of verbal humiliation, she should not get into this role in an initial phone conversation.
  • For your first phone call, you are basically a client seeking out a service from a professional. Your questions should be answered in an informative way. On the other hand, you should not push her to get too explicit. There is nothing more annoying to a pro, than being asked detail questions about the session itself. That sounds like phone sex.
  • On the other hand, it is permissible to ask about equipment, necessary toys, and if there is anything special she'd like you to bring, for example, if you are a crossdresser, ask about her crossdressing facilities. For hygienic purposes, you should be prepared to supply your own undergarments and dildos.
  • Yes, a good Mistress sterilizes all equipment, but do you really feel comfortable sharing intimate accouterments?
  • During the phone call, let the Mistress know as much about your scene as possible. Do not ask her what she enjoys. That is irrelevant to you as a client. Your concern is merely whether or not she can do your scene to the best of her ability. Experience is definitely important when seeking out professional services. You have the right to know how long she has been a Dominatrix, who helped in her training, and what (if any) specialties she has.
Misleading Advertising
  • Lifestyle Domina is a phrase that many Doms are currently using. In case you were wondering, lifestyle Domina simply means that the lady enjoys S/M even when she is not working. The term is basically self-proclaimed and has little relevance to you as a consumer.
  • It does not mean that she will give you a better session, nor does it mean that you will become her personal property.
  • When seeking out the services of a professional, your major concern should be about total fantasy fulfillment. If your goal is to find a lifelong partner, you will almost never get that with a lady who is an advertised pro. Re-think your goals and save your money if a relationship is what you seek.
  • Most lifestyle Dominas all ready have special slaves and do sessions in order to support their lifestyle.
  • Professional Doms should have your respect for contracting an honest transaction. They provide you with the S/M or fetish experience that you are lacking.
Your First Session
  • Arrive to your appointment on time. On time means at the time you agreed upon. It does not mean being 5 or 10 minutes early. Professional Doms are busy people. You will not score points by being early. An early arrival is just as rude as being late. If you do find that you are running late, do telephone your Mistress and let her know. The same general rules of etiquette apply with an initial S/M session as it would with any business type appointment.
  • When you meet your Mistress, take her lead. Now is the time you can finally let go and express your submissive side. Each Dom has her own program. Follow what she tells you. Do not arrive with expectations of what you want or what you think should occur. The best way to enjoy an S/M scene is to relax and let go. After all, you have paid your Mistress to run the show. You'll have plenty of time to evaluate after your session.
  • Before your session starts, your Mistress may ask you some more questions. If you have some concerns or have a need to remind her about particulars of your scene, by all means do so. Bear in mind that no Dom is a mind reader. You are but one of the many clients she sees.
  • For your first few sessions, you can definitely make suggestions as well as state your limitations. When you are paying for an experience, you should get what you want. However, remember to talk before the session starts. Once you both get in role, your comments just may go on deaf ears.
  • Remember who is the slave and who is the Mistress.
  • Be patient for your first session. S/M scenes are not unlike sexual encounters. Though first time fucks are passionate, real deep satisfaction comes with an intimate partner. The Mistress/slave session is not unlike a relationship. It needs time to blossom and grow. It is very similar to a psychologist/patient relationship. Though money is exchanged, intimacy, healing, and growth occur. A good Mistress can also help your mental health. By providing you with a safe, non-judgmental place in which to explore your fantasies, your self esteem level can be raised.
  • Some submissives like to come and go at the end of a session, literally. However, a reputable Dominatrix will give you a few minutes to talk and wind down. Oftentimes a scene can evoke some powerful emotions. You may need some time to process your feelings.
  • If you are with the right Mistress, she will be there to talk if you need to. You should not feel that you are being thrown out or that she has her clients scheduled like an assembly line. On the other hand, you should be respectful of her time as a professional. An extra 5 to 10 minutes is understandable.
  • Anything else you should be scheduled and paid for.
Come Again?
  • Only you can decide whether or not to have a repeat session with a Mistress. You can make an evaluation by making a list of all the requirements you had. For example, did you feel listened to? Did you play in a clean dungeon? Did the Mistress know how to use equipment? Did you feel turned on?
Did you have fun?
  • If you felt the session was good but could have been better, you have the right to give the Mistress feedback - respectfully, of course. Everyone can use some constructive feedback. If she is a good professional, she will be open to your suggestions and participation. Sessions are a two way street. Your participation is as important as hers. Nurture and respect the relationship you establish with your Mistress. The effort you put in will ensure true fantasy fulfillment.

- Mistress Jacqueline

The first time I met Mistress Jacqueline was at Mistress Antoinette's ( of Versatile Fashions ) New Years Party 1987

Compiled by Mistress Michelle and slave english

Mistress Gena Randolph

Mistress Gena Rowland

Mistress Gena started into the scene before I did , very pretty Mistress. The only stories or interviews are in Allen Carter's "Amazon" & "B & D Digest" (he owned it before Bill Dasher) Also I do have one or two stories by her "Lashes Lust & Lashes" Magazine put out by Countess Anne. When I find those, I will post them here.

Mistress Jade de Sade

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Mistress Jade De Sade

Many of you know Jade de Sade passed away March 16, 2003. The site Classic Dominants is in honor of her. This is a interview from Mistress Jacqueline of Pacific Force Magazine. MM

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Mistress Jacqueline: How did you first get into the S/M scene?

Mistress Jade de Sade: I officially got started in 1982. I met a man at a dinner party and invited him home. When I went to the kitchen to make some coffee, I was surprised to find him inside my bedroom. No, he wasn't trying to make the move. He was merely snooping in my closet.

Apparently, he found something that sent him over the edge.

As you might have guessed, he loved my female clothing. However, what he liked even more, was my law enforcement uniform, a remnant of an old job I had inside a correctional institution.

Mistress Jacqueline: Let me guess. He was a transvestite with prison girl fantasies!

Mistress de Sade: How ever did you know! Yes, that's exactly correct. When he confessed his fantasy to me, I was drawn to enact a role play with him. I found that fantasy play really stimulated me much more than regular run of the mill sex. Something clicked when I took the lead role. Now, I believe I can trace it back to my early days as a young girl.

Mistress Jacqueline: I take it you are a natural born Dominant female?

Mistress de Sade: I believe that is correct. I recall that I loved to tease and taunt the neighborhood boys. Even then, a definite role reversal was taking place. Rather than have the boys chase me, I would chase them. But in a sensual way. In fact, I used to charge a penny to each boy to watch me perform on the jungle gym!

Mistress Jacqueline: Nothing like starting early! So, how did you transition into being a professional Dominatrix?

Mistress de Sade: The chance encounter with the cross dresser blossomed into a long term friendship. From him, I learned a great deal about the S/M scene. I even took a job doing phone domination and really received an education from all the fetish fantasies I did nightly over the phone. In time, I met a fellow Dominatrix in the area and she encouraged me to do live sessions. I was totally ready. in a matter of months, my fantasy dungeon became a reality.

Mistress Jacqueline: Tell us about your dungeon. I hear it's great. Mistress de Sade: I'm very proud of my play room. Over the years I've built it up to be a room fully equipped to handle a wide variety of fetishes and fantasies. The major structure in the room is my rectangular slave frame which is extremely versatile, binding a slave in a variety of positions. The best part of the frame is that I don't have to tie and untie a slave in order to reach his front and back. The frame was built so that I can walk comfortably around a slave while his hands are tied high above his head. Just like I enjoy my eggs fried, I like my men on both sides!

Mistress Jacqueline: Never limit yourself. It's fun to explore every inch of a helpless slave! What else do you have?

Mistress de Sade: Besides the standard bondage type equipment including whips, clamps, restraints, I can accommodate wide variety of specific tastes. For those who seek medical attention, I have a real operating type table and clinical wheelchair, not to mention the enema bag needed for a complete physical. For those who want real nurturing, I am a natural born mommy and can make even the biggest boy feel young again once I've dressed him up in booties, bonnet, and diaper. Of course, my experience with cross dressing goes back years and I am very capable of doing a full transformation complete with clothing and make-up.

Mistress Jacqueline: What type of S/M activity do you enjoy best?

Mistress de Sade: Anything intense. I am very tuned into the response of the slave I am working with. As long as I know he is mentally and physically involved, I experience a sense of fulfillment. If a slave is too quiet, I get bored. I then feel the need to make him respond. In other words, it is very important for a slave to participate with me.

It is also important for me to find out what a person is into up front. Once they give me areas they are interested in, I take the reign. I can then push the scene to the limit. For me, Domination is not as much a sexual response as it is a power high.

Mistress Jacqueline: What attributes do you seek in a potential slave?

Mistress de Sade: Loyalty, humility, respect, sincerity, and honesty.

Mistress Jacqueline: Do you consider yourself to lean towards the cruel sadistic end of the S/M spectrum or are you a more sensual type player?

Mistress de Sade: In my sessions, I can play anything from Scheherazade to Marquis de Sade's sister. It all depends on my mood as well as the slave's predilections. I really think that sometimes the real cruelty comes from the continual tease that I am expert at inflicting. If you keep someone on the edge of cumming for two to three hours that can be extremely tormenting. By the way, I really love doing that!

Mistress Jacqueline: So, you're a tease! What are your other specialty areas?

Mistress de Sade: I'd say I give a really excellent session which includes all the standards - bondage, teasing, whipping, and cock and ball torture. What I truly like is getting into someone's head. I must say I do that extremely well. I figure out what a person wants and then I play with it. I can make a person pull out the nastiest of fantasies. Some, that even they weren't fully conscious of until I helped them explore.

Mistress Jacqueline: What are your favorite types of sessions?

Mistress de Sade: Basically, I like to have fun. I like to leave a slave so spent that it takes him hours to get back to reality. Mistress Jacqueline: What are your favorite toys?

Mistress de Sade: Well, I just picked up a new hobby which is whip cracking with my new bull whip. I love to crack and practice on slaves, Of course, the bull whip is very intense. I only use this on the sturdiest of slaves.

I also love the strap. I really like to strap a fanny and enjoy long strapping sessions. Of course, a good old fashioned over-the-knee spanking is great too.

Mistress Jacqueline: How can a slave get into your good graces?

Mistress de Sade: He can give me my favorite perfume which is Boucheron. It makes me feel very royal and sexy. Seriously, I seek slaves who are co-operative and not demanding. A slave should answer questions and not volunteer information. I like slaves who are players; not whiners. I really appreciate slaves who take me on trips. I love to travel and am avail­able to go places with slaves that I get to know well.

Mistress Jacqueline: If a slave displeases you, how will he be punished?

Mistress de Sade: I have rules and expect my slaves to obey. For example, oftentimes I order slaves to wear a red ribbon around their cock and balls every time they phone me. They are then told to bring that ribbon to a session. If they forget, they can expect some rather strict discipline which will vary from slave to slave.

Mistress Jacqueline: Do you have personal slaves? Looking for more?

Mistress de Sade: Right now I have a live-in slave who does my cleaning, dishes, and serves me my food. I also have a slave whose primary duty is cooking and one that comes once a week as a handyman. Currently, I am seeking a slave to be my personal secretary. I would prefer a male slave with knowledge of computers and word processors. Anyone interested should send me a resume with references.

Mistress Jacqueline: What kind of fetish attire do you enjoy wearing?

Mistress de Sade: I love PVC and leather. I would get more rubber but my long fingernails get in the way. I also have a huge collection of thigh high boots and stiletto high heels.

Mistress Jacqueline: Any special projects you are currently working on?

Mistress de Sade: Well, I do live in the wedding capital of the world, Las Vegas. I am currently getting ready to host a real Mistress/slave wedding right here in my dungeon. Planning this wed­ ding has been so much fun that I'm considering a career as a wedding consultant. I plan to get my license as minister so I can actually perform the function. I hope to marry other scene type couples in the future.

Mistress Jacqueline: How can a potential slave get in touch with you?

Mistress de Sade: They can write in advance or call once they get to Las Vegas:

-- Jade de Sade

Compiled by Mistress Michelle and slave english

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